It seems like the majority of Americans have a few common new years resolutions.
To go to the gym, eat better, and make more money.
Those are all stellar goals which takes a ton of responsibility, dedication, and consistency.
But to go a little deeper in the subject matter, I’ve given this a lot of thought and decided to make a listy list for you.
1. Reach out to positive people
You are who you hang out with, right? Even if you’re an upbeat person, a negative group of friends can influence your mind set, drag you down, and maybe you start to notice that you don’t behave the way you should behave. As said in the law of attraction- like attracts like. Positive people attract other positive people.
If you want to be around more attractive people, you need to start being more attractive yourself.
Find your attractive qualities and build on them! Confidence is contagious, and people love that shit.
Guys- Ladies don’t want to an insecure “man!” cough boy.
Ladies- Men want a strong independent woman who generates her own happiness and doesn’t need some one else to be be able to be happy.
2. Give more
I don’t mean just material things. Give thanks. Give praise. Acknowledge other peoples good deeds, even if you’re not really too fond of the person!
Don’t hold all your warm fuzzies to yourself.
The more value you give to others, the more praise you’ll start receiving yourself!
It feels so damned good to make another person laugh, smile, and feel great.
3. Stop beating yourself up!
I used to be really bad about this one. I would never give myself enough credit and I took failures to heart. Failures and mistakes are one
way we learn to be better. The important part is to learn from your mistakes and build on them. It’s crucial take responsibilty for our actions and get out of the
“pointing your finger at others” habit. Don’t be a wussy, and suck it up.
4. Take a break from social media
This is hypocritical because I’m sharing this on social media LOL. I’m not saying to completely cutting social media off, but just to take a break from it. Social media and meme sites are making us so
ADD because we’re constantly scrolling through quick reads and pictures.
Instead, pick up a good book where you can actually learn something and makes you think.
Have you seen couples, or friends out for coffee and instead of communicating, they’re just glued to their phones?
Ugh. Maybe that’s you? Are you just scrolling through everyone’s
Facebook updates to pass time until your lattee is ready?
Make a conversation with some one. Going out of your confort zone is actually fun!
5. Do something new
Vague, right? No shut up. For example, Try out a new restaurant … that’s not in your immediate area. Are you in the suburbs?
Go down town! Yelp is a great tool to find some hidden tasty secrets.
Listen to some new music! Pandora and Spotify are freakin’ sweet! You can find so much awesome music in genres you thought you never cared for!
I myself am a huge metal guy. Turns out that I love Motown (as a whole), Ween, and panic at the disco. Trying new things stimulates your brain. It’s crucial to exercise the ol’ noggin
6. Let go, and forgive
My heart was broken pretty bad around this time last year. Long story short- I was madly in love, and she wasn’t.
There was a dude on the side and I was too blind to see any red flags that lead up to that. After I moved out, I was cursing her name every night and saying “why me I was
so good to her blah blah blah.”
I then started to look within and take responsibility.
We all have our own personal flaws, but instead of feeling sorry for myself, I looked
back and realized my own personal mistakes… and decided to build on them.
All is forgiven and now I’m a better person because of that break up. It’s completely natural to blame yourself at first, but you’ll need to snap out of it!
Grudges we hold on anyone only affects our own growth and happiness.
You gotta take it for what it is, swallow that bitter pill, and move on.
Without that break up, I wouldn’t have started this blog.
I wouldn’t have started my own home business.
Stop giving a fuck already and start “doing.” You’ll thank me later, and more importantly thank yourself.
7. Build your own dreams or some one else will build them for you
I believe that was a quote from Farra Gray. If you love your current job, then hell yeah! If you don’t love your job, then it’s likely you’re not going to love it 2 years from now. Or 2 months. Think about the things that you’re good at that you can do every day.
People often fantasize about living a life with $100,000 in the bank while traveling the world. But do they want to do the work to make that happen?
Do they want to work 80 hours a week selling Toyotas or running a cleaning business?
Really meditate on what processes you enjoy doing. Is it writing? child care? helping improve others mind set? what do you do mindlessly, just because you “feel like it?”
Stop looking for your passion, because you’re probably already ignoring it. If it was a snake, it’d bite you.
I never considered blogging or writing a passion.. i just started doing it because I simply felt like it. And hey! it’s kind of fun. If I can do something such as writing,
and it doesn’t feel like “work,” then I think I’m on to something.
If I can post content on my blog and help people shift their attitude to a more productive and positive way, then I’m happy as a fucking clam.
“7” was kind of long and I went on bit of a tangent there (or was it a sin!? OH). Gotta love math dad jokes.
8. procrastination is a killer
This part is a little bit ironic because I have procrastinated three days to write this portion. Why is it, that even though I love writing that I pushed it off for that long?
I’ve learned a few tricks to train my brain to get sh#t done- you gotta be in an environment where the activity will actually get done.
For example, I was sitting on my sofa playing my new kick ass bass I got for Christmas. I knew I needed to finish this blog post, but I continued to play anyway.
I mean shit, it was a lot more fun “slappin da bass” than writing this blogg blog post. After a few beers, I continued to play… and long boring story short- this post didn’t get done.
So it came to me- If I just sat at my desk with my note pad open on my laptop, I’d at least get a few hundreds words out.
I didn’t focus on getting the entire post written, but at least some.
Turns out that I didn’t get 300 words out, I got 700 words out. Sometimes you just gotta force yourself to “show up.”
What you can also do is break down the task and start with the part of that requires the least amount of effort. Over time this creates momentum = ).
Hopefully this ramble helped you out!